Three stages, walked together — never sprung on anyone.

Phones, laptops, tablets, gaming consoles, smart TVs, the router itself. The two of you work through the inventory lesson — usually one evening, at your own pace — and write them all down. Nothing is changed yet. Nothing is judged. The point is just to see the shape of what is actually in the house, because the cycle at 2am does not care which device is convenient.

You finish the inventory lesson with a written list, an honest picture, and no surprises waiting later.

Before any setting changes, both spouses walk through exactly what is coming: what each tool does, what stays in the recovering spouse's name, what the accountability partner will and will not be looking at. No surprises, no surveillance framing — just plain, named decisions. The recovering spouse signs off on each item before it is applied.

Then the locks go in. Filtering on the home internet, screen-time and content restrictions on each device, accountability software set up the way it actually works. Every account stays in your spouse's name; every master password stays in their hands.